Monday, December 29, 2014

What Is The Root of Overeating? (part 1)

I've been doing lots of study on gluttony, overeating, and what the Bible has to say about both.  It has stepped on my toes something awful, made me squirm, and even backed away from it for a while.  Regardless, the Bible says what the Bible says and I can't ignore it.

Did I mention it stepped on my toes?

So, take it as you will.  This is what I gleaned from my studies.  Your thoughts and mine may well be totally different, and you may not like what I'm about to write.  That's ok too.

I do have to say that while the things I'm about to put on here stepped on my toes and made me squirm, they were what I needed to read, to learn, to hear from God.

I hope what is written here will help you as well in some way.

First, we need to know the definition of gluttony.

According to Merriam Webster the definition is:  the act or habit of eating or drinking too much, or (1) excess in eating or drinking or (2) greedy or excessive indulgence

So, we've established the definition.  Now, we shall establish what the Bible says about gluttony.  The word itself isn't in the Bible much, but the definition and various words that *do* mean gluttony are there.

Deuteronomy 21:20--And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard.

Philippians 3:19--Whose end is destruction, whose God is their belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who mind earthly things.

Proverbs 23:20--Be not among winebibbers; among riotous eaters of flesh;

Proverbs 23:2--And put a knife to thy throat, if thou be a man given to appetite.

Proverbs 23:21--For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty:  and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags.

Psalms 78:18--And they tempted God in their heart by asking meat for their lust.

And there are many more (I printed out 7 pages worth).

The way it looks, the bible doesn't look to favorably upon gluttony.

How do we make it to gluttony, to over eating, and to the 200, 300, 400, or more pounds?  It doesn't happen over night.  It doesn't take a single candy bar, a single sugary soda, a day without exercise.

It builds.

It grows.

It expands like dust bunnies under the couch.

I've examined my own reasons for how I got to 400 pounds, and this may or may not apply to you, but here goes:  I've been prideful, arrogant.  "I'm not going to have some skinny young thing tell ME what to eat."  "I'm not going to bust my behind for hours in the gym and still have to do it the rest of my life."  I've also refused to submit to what the Lord would have for my health and body.

"Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?"  (I Corinthians 3:16)


So in my pride and refusing to submit to the Lord's wishes, I've allowed myself, one bite at a time, one refusal to move at a time, to become a glutton.

That's a hard one to get a hold of.  No one who loves the Lord wants to admit either one of those, myself included.

Seems almost too simple, doesn't it?  No big philosophical thing, no big studies or anything involved here.  All that took was asking the Lord to point out what needed to be changed, and how.

We'll get to "how" in the next part, if you're up to reading after all this!

I did the "how" in September, back in the beginning of my weight loss was the turning point that really changed my world....and no regrets!

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Weight Loss Challenge Weeks 16 and 17

Christmas has come and gone, and it sure was a blur!

It was a good time, although quite stressful, with lots of blessings along the way that we never imagined.

Where do I start????

We were blessed so much by our church family, that I stood in tears.  The generosity, kind-heartedness, faithfulness of our church family is absolutely amazing.  We didn't deserve the blessings that they provided!

Last week we had all the children home through Christmas Day.  While this is normal for most families, we have a blended family and so there are non-custodial parents who want (and are given per custody order) time with their child(ren).  It was stressful more due to the lack of the regular schedule that we are accustomed to, the anxiety for the oldest 2 who are also deeper into the autism spectrum, and the residual side effects from their anxiety.  We made it by the grace of God, and are on the downside of the holiday vacation time, back to regular schedules with school, staffing, social groups, work schedules, and so on very soon.  We've put away the tree and decorations already, and made our house as "normal" as it was before.  I will soon miss the Christmas music, lights, and decorations that we see throughout town.  The radio still plays the sacred Christmas music, and I'm not ready for that to go quite yet.

Weight wise, I've fallen off the wagon but kept running beside it, if that makes sense.  I ate.  I enjoyed some of the homemade goodies that I made for the family and others.  I even had a large slice of pecan pie, at around a thousand calories.  It. was. good.  Exercise wise, there was a stretch of 4 days where between lack of sleep and stress and family demands, walking and moving intentionally was put on the back burner.  It didn't take long to see that it would be fairly easy to revert back to old ways of not walking and moving around, and I vowed to not let that happen.

Since Christmas day, I've resumed eating more responsibly.  I've resumed walking at least 3 miles a day, making back up to 5 quickly.  I'm back into my routine of exercising 6 days a week, and trying hard to ditch the want for the extra goodies.  I'm not making anymore of the cookies and candies for the kids, so that won't be hard at all.  You can't eat what's not there!

Hubby and his mom and dad gave a big encouragement through Christmas.  They purchased clothing for me and those were my presents under the tree this year.  They were a size 1X.  Four months ago I was wearing a 4X.  Hubby saw that I didn't have dress clothes that really fit anymore, like what I'd wear to church, and so he and his parents purchased a navy button front dress, and then a waffle knit soft long sleeved shirt and soft navy knit A line skirt.  They all fit well, and the dress and top I put on over layers when I tried them on and they still fit well.

This is what I look like as of Sunday the 28th.

I closely cropped in order to take out a cluttered side table that had some study books and a notebook and many pens/highlighters. :)

Can you tell I have on yoga capris on at the same time?  It was chilly out, and the layers are wonderful.

I hope you all had a great Christmas, and are looking forward to a wonderful 2015!  I sure am, and looking forward to more weight loss and exercising, along with better health.

Have a great week you all!

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Sunday, December 21, 2014

Away for The Week

I will be away through the weekend, with all children at home and family needs to tend to.  We're in the midst of the things that happen when you have children on the autism spectrum and changes in routines, as well as changes in other areas of their lives (such as in non-custodials' lives) that we have no control over but affects the child nonetheless.  I must give pretty well all my time to family right now, through the end of the upcoming week, while everyone is home.

Keep on going with your journey!!  I'll be praying with you all!

Have a Merry Christmas everyone!

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Thursday, December 18, 2014

My Own Cheering Section!

I have my own in-home encouraging cheerleader!

She lays on whatever project I'm working on, or on the back of the recliner, and snoozes while I do the walking DVD's.  She gets annoyed when I bounce around and wake her up.

Her name is Shadow, but we call her "Little", as she's really rather small (but heavy!)  She's 3.

She is a Korat, and fits the breed's nature perfectly.

Take note:  she's laying on my quilt in progress, and that's a no no--and she knows it!! LOL

She believes she is queen, and my quilt is her throne...for now. :)

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Sunday, December 14, 2014

Weight Loss Challenge Week 15--the LONG Update!

Wow, we're going into week 15 of weight loss challenge!  Those of you following along with your own journey, how are you doing??

It has most definitely been a challenge in the past week.  Many of you know (from reading our "about" page), that we have special needs children, all of whom are near or into the teens.  All three are on the autism spectrum at varying levels, one also has MR and bi polar disorder, one has severe combined ADHD (and no, absence of sugar or glutien doesn't phase it), and one has ADD.  Life is not boring here.  Middle child, with autism/MR/bi polar disorder, had some changes at his non-custodial dad's house that broke his heart around Thanksgiving (his stepmom of 10 years walked away for good without saying anything to him and his dad moved on to another girlfriend), and then this week had more news that really changes his world there.  When he has changes that big, he doesn't handle it well.  He has meltdowns, refuses to go to school on the bus (school for him is 15 miles away at a program that really works great for him), refuses his showers and meds, and so on.  Thankfully, he is maturing, nearing 13 years old, and after a while I can get through to him that it's ok to be sad and upset, but it's not ok to hurt people or other people's property.  He is old enough and mature enough to understand consequences for actions, even those done in anger, and those have helped him learn to contain his aggression as well.  We understand he hurts, he's angry, and he has frustration, but we also can't let him get by with hurting us, others, himself, or destroying the home, or refusing to go to school.  That would be more hurtful to him to let him get by with the actions than to teach him appropriate responses to upsets.  It's also a chance to teach him that we love him no matter what, and that we're here to provide the boundaries and stability he needs and hugs he needs when he doesn't think he needs them.

There's a sector of people out there who believe in the idea of not holding children with autism accountable for their actions.  We're not in that group.  We as parents are supposed to teach our kids right from wrong, prepare them to be able to function in the world around them, and at some point be able to live without us.  If we let them beat up people when they're mad or upset, tear apart a house on a whim, in essence hold us hostage and let them get away with murder, then we've failed at our job.  It *IS* ok to say no to a special needs child, to teach them appropriate behavior, teach them manners, and treat them like you would other kids who may or may not have the same special needs. It's not easy to teach them like that, there's definitely challenges, but it's better to do it while they are younger, before they reach adulthood, than to try to teach it after they've made into the legal system or into group homes or institutions!

Anyway, I'll get off that soap box now.  This week has been stressful in dealing with the issues that popped up with middle child's dad.  Remember, oldest and youngest are my stepchildren, middle is my biological child.  We are a blended family that's been together for 8 years.  Holidays are harder with kids on the spectrum, most definitely.  You know how we as adults feel frazzled and harried and so busy keeping up amidst the holiday festivities, presents, decorating, and so on--imagine what it's like for kids like ours, who going into the shorter days, longer nights, changes in schedules, the lights and music, noises and so on.  So far, ours have handled all the holiday things rather well, and I'm proud of them.

We've had other minor stressors this week, with septic system backing up, vehicle maintenance, and some workman's comp things for hubby (that went smoothly, but initially hubby had a concussion due to his young client--hubby works with children much like ours part time.  He is great with kids, especially special needs ones).  God provided for all of those issues, even went above and beyond on them!  For instance, the vehicle maintenance was for brakes on hubby's little Dodge Dakota he bought off the wholesale lot.  He believed the brakes were going out.  So despite little money in the bank he put it in the shop and had it looked at.  All they needed were cleaned, and lo and behold--the brakes were brand new and in great shape!  Praise the Lord!  We've also went over a week with almost all gloom and clouds, I think the sun peeked out for a few hours one day, and we have a week ahead of the same--that also affects each of us and puts us in a less than cheerful mood if we don't really fight it, especially the kids.

Weight wise, I didn't weigh in, and probably won't until my next appointment in early January.  But, there are positive changes.  I've met the walking 3 miles a day 6 days a week goal, and even went above it a little by adding another mile or two before bed some nights.  This is probably the best I've slept on the days/evenings I did a combined 4 to 5 miles.  I've been out walking with a buddy around the town square on mornings that work out for both of us--between sickies with kids, us, gloomy/drizzle weather and the cold, it's been trying to get out there first thing in the morning before my buddy goes to work and I have my household things to do.  The walking with her has been therapeutic, we chat and work out problems in our lives and so on--it's rewarding!  We average about 45 minutes circling the courthouse square, when it's still rather empty and before the staff and courts start their day.  At home, I'm putting in the DVD's and doing 3 miles or so on the days I don't get to walk the square, and then in the evening another mile or two.  I admit it, I don't always want to get started and do it.  I'd rather do other things.  But at the end, I'm glad I did.

Body wise, the hard to lose fat on the upper legs, from knees up, and in the belly where it hangs, is going down.  Yay!!  I'm learning that the only way to really get rid of the belly fat and leg flab is to keep on walking, keep on doing aerobic work, keep using the muscles, and keep on with the eating healthy idea.  It's not going as fast as I'd like--I'd be happy if by some miracle it'd all leave today--but it's going down, and that's what matters.  I can get the knees way up now in the knee lifts, the kickbacks are much easier and don't hurt, side steps are stronger and wider.  In the dvd's, Leslie Sansone and her walkers in the background clap on side steps.  Not me--my hands don't do the clapping, my thighs do!  That just tells me I need to do more of them to keep working them!  I really like seeing the overall body fat going down, it tells me I'm on the right track, and that all that walking daily is helping.

Eating wise, still doing soups daily (most days anyway), fruits, baked chicken, veggies, and overall behaving.  We had my stepdaughter's birthday this last week, and I made her a cherry chocolate cake from a box mix with coordinating frosting to take to church, as it was Wednesday.  The leftovers came home, and didn't last long.  It. was. awesome!  I took into account the calorie intake from the Red Baron pizzas we had for supper and the cake intake, and been mindful of any sweets and looking at the calorie count and weighing if I reallllllly want that or not.  I've stayed out of the Christmas candy aisles, and did sugar up on Friday with the trip to deliver son to his dad's, with a salted caramel cappuccino and a Snickers to enjoy on the hour and a half trip back home.  Thankfully this isn't an every day occasion!  If I did this daily, I'd gain a lot back, and it's not worth it.  But a once in a while thing isn't bad, especially when you have been really craving it--it beats eating everything in sight and still not being satisfied but way over your calorie limit.  I did try a regular Coke this week, and it wasn't satisfying at all.  Honestly, none of the carbonated drinks seem satisfying anymore, whether full sugar or sugar-free.  Now a good cup of coffee or tea, those hit the spot!  I still can't stand the taste of our city's bleach tasting water, so still doing coffee and herbal teas to fill the void, along with skim milk and "diet" juices--I believe it's Ocean Spray that does "diet" cranberry and blueberry juices at 5 calories a serving.  They taste good and have much less sugar!

I have to say that all the veggies and fruits and good for you things I've been eating on regularly has been beneficial beyond weight loss.  We're in the sickie season, and the kids are all sharing the yucks by way of sneezles and wheezles and coughs and snots.  They love sharing.  Until last evening and this morning, I've been able to fight off the direct attacks from the sickies, and even what I have now is a sinus/ear thing that with rest and meds I'm able to keep under control.  The main thing is rest, which doesn't seem to happen much with the high energy of the kids and the needs of the household and so on.  So I took the day off of church to get the huge head pain under control and rest, and recoup to be able to function through the week and be back in service again Wednesday.  I seriously think that with all the flu and stuff going around, the veggies in soups and raw, and all the fresh fruits have been a major player in keeping the nasty stuff at bay.  And for that, I thank the Lord!

This coming week I'm preparing to make homemade peanut brittle and caramels to send out to family and friends.  I also plan on baking some goodies to give to son's bus driver and others who are local.  I wouldn't be a good cook if I didn't sample the quality, now would I?  I will have to be more careful in what I do, as yesterday when I attempted to slice some bread loaves I'd made and left sit to harden the crust a little, the serrated knife tried to go through my thumb.  Did you know bread knives will go through finger nails and into the nail bed??  Trust me they do.

I've started alterations on my clothing, as I ran out of skirts that fit, and I had my cape dresses sitting needing work.  I took my 34/36 skirts and added darts to make them fit at the waist and flare a bit.  Right now I have a cape dress that was sewn to fit the body size I was, torn apart and prepared for new darts and having the side seams taken in from sleeve hem to where the bodice meets the skirt.  The skirt will have to be gathered tighter too at the seam to fit.  This is a good thing!  There's 2 of those to do, and then there are 2 that are still in the cut but not sewn position from the summer that will have to be re-cut and trimmed down.  I'm having to make use of my little book on alterations to do this, as it's easier to me to just make garments from scratch than alter ones already made.  This weekend I pulled out all my larger clothing and went through them, and many are going into a trashbag to go off to the thrift shop for donations.  Very little fit anymore or are really fit for alterations.  I'm so grateful for the large amount of clothing that the Lord provided a few weeks ago--they've more than filled my side of the closet and provide inspiration to keep going, and it's awesome feeling some of the clothes feel a little looser than they were when they first arrived!  They have really been helpful too in filling the gap between old body size and current, and it's also nice to exercise in yoga type pants and capris, that don't flap around or get under foot and get in the way.  And as it gets colder I can wear them under dresses and long skirts for extra warmth!

I hope you all are having a great week, and I keep you all in my prayers!  I may not know all of you who read Sunny Patch by name, but the Lord does, and that's what matters!

You all have a great week, and I'll see you again soon!

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 The weekly update is being pushed back a day or two due to sickies.  It's that time of year, and the kids are sharing as much as they can with us and each other and all their friends.

I hope you all are having a great week!  I'll be back very soon!

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Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Tips for Making It Through The Christmas (Candy) Season

Christmas candy--it's everywhere!!  Little trees, snowmen, elves, you name it, it's there just calling your name.  It echoes mine across the store, and has beacons up just waiting for me to come visit.

It's a conspiracy I tell you!

This year, I refuse to be drawn in to the Christmas sabotage in those little brightly wrapped pieces of yummy chocolate goodness.  I've had my allotment I'm allowing myself for the season.

Instead, I've invested some money into something else.  Fresh fruit!

Right now, at least in our area, apples, bananas, and oranges are on sale.  I have a love for large seedless oranges.  I only get them during the Christmas season, and each year I look forward to another bin full of them.

This year, the sweet of the fruits are taking the place of the cane sugar sweetness of the candy.

Now, I'm just like any other red blooded American who loves candy.  I really really really enjoy Christmas candy, especially the hard pieces with soft gooey middle that are more old fashioned.  They are even more alluring in that they only come out once a year.  This is not easy.  In fact, it's very hard to say no, to walk away from the candy, to stay out of the chocolates.

Another tip to make it through the candy season--exercise!

Think about it:  if you've hoofed it through a 45 minute walking/jogging session, do you *really* want to eat all those calories just burned up in a handful of Reece's?  I've had to stop and ask myself that one.  Also, exercise really does make you feel better, you work hard and enjoy the benefits of it.  You get a lift that chocolate can't simulate (at least not as well).

Tip #3:  if you really want to indulge, take a look at the serving size, calories per serving, and keep track of what you take in.  A piece of candy here and there won't crash anyone's plans.  It's a whole bag here and there that really causes problems.  I am capable of eating the entire bag of M&M's or Reece's, so this is something I must watch.  I don't know if you do, but these are stumbling blocks bigger than the Rocky Mountains.

You can make it through the Christmas season and not put on 20 pounds!  I know you can!

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Saturday, December 6, 2014

Weight Loss Challenge Week 14

It's been another great week so far!

I went to the clinic where I keep track of diabetes and weight and hopped on the scale.  Not only did I not gain anything (which I'm glad!) but I lost a pound.  Yay!!


53 pounds down, even with Thanksgiving feasting!

So, I'm back on track now, with soups and fruits and veggies and lots of exercise.  I'm shooting for at least 2 miles a day power walking with dvd, if not more.  In the coming week I believe I have a walking buddy to go out and walk around the town here once or twice a week as well!

We also took updated pictures to document.  The below pic in the orange/black is current, with clothing mentioned in the last post that I received and has been a blessing!  I'm enjoying the yoga pants feeling!

This is a size 22/24.  I was bigger than this in high school!  At this point in time, hubby can feel my ribs on either side.  Can you believe that--at this weight/size??  There's still a long ways to go, but made it a long ways too!  This week I tried on (and purchased) a size 18/20 top and it fits!  I was *very* happy!  I haven't seen that size in YEARS!

Here's the "before" pic at a 32 top and 34/36 bottom and 53 pounds heavier:

For what it's worth, I'm not doing the pictures for vanity.  I absolutely hate taking my own picture, and am embarrassed by what I look like in them.  I'm quite content hiding behind the camera.  But, if this helps anyone out there find the encouragement they need to jump on board and work on getting healthier and losing extra weight and size if needed, then I'll keep on doing this.

Thank you all so much for your encouragement!  It means a lot to me--much more than you think!

 During previous weight loss endeavors, I never had the cheerleaders, but instead the pessimists reminding me that I can't do it, that every time before had failed.  That's the last thing an obese person needs!!

I hope you all are having a great week!  If you're following along and doing your own challenge, how are you doing?

Lots of hugs from southern Kansas!!

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