Do you see yourself much larger than you are?
Something that I've found in this journey I started 2 months ago, is that the way I see myself in the mirror isn't the way I truly look. I see myself as the 400 pound woman I was. The one in the first picture I ever shared of myself. I see the size 32/34 in the mirror, not the 22/24. Even with clothing that is too big, a measuring tape going farther in, I don't "see" it when I look at myself.
It's a distorted view. It is also known as "phantom fat". It is a struggle with body image that comes around when you've been fat/obese/overweight/fluffy (whatever you want to call it) a long while. In my case, most of my life. It's in the same realm as when someone loses a limb the feeling that it's still there. It's not the same, but in the ballpark. You lose a good portion of body fat, you still see and feel it there.
In an article from From Fat To Fit Girl, this is explained a bit better. The article also offers ideas to help get your perception to match your body (there's quite a few in the article, here's a few:)
- Put a photo of yourself on the fridge or another visible place where you think you look better than perfect
- Get yourself a pair of skinny jeans or colored pants that make you keep thinking “Girl, you are small!”
- Take pictures now & compare them to old pictures
- Ask a friend or a significant other you absolutely trust what they think about your looks after the weight loss
- Look yourself in the mirror while you work out and compare the body you see with other bodies in the gym
- Go window shopping! Pick something out that you would never have dared to wear before and try it on just for the fun of it!
- Try on your old over-sized clothes! This way you will get a clear perspective of your progress and your current body size.
I particularly like number 7, as I haven't bought any new clothes yet. This one is easy! I've also done number 6, which was rewarding. :) Number 3 is one I do here on the blog and embarrass myself regularly showing my hefty self to you all.
The Fat To Fit Girl site has a lot of good posts on the distorted view of yourself issue--you might want to check them out here.
I mentioned this to hubby, as I have to ask him if I really do look smaller at all, since I can't see it. After looking at me like my head is spinning in circles and I grew a horn or something, he says he didn't understand that. Later on, he mentioned that after thinking about it, he has heard of that concept--in folks with anorexia nervosa.
I've never been accused of anorexia. But, I get what hubby was saying about that--many or most with anorexia see themselves in a very distorted light, seeing fat where there isn't any, and seeing themselves much much much larger than they really are. I get that.
For those who are going along with long term weight loss, are you having issues with how you see yourself in the mirror?
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