Monday, September 30, 2013

Foolish Girl

Today I had chance to contemplate some things I've done in the past, before and right after I came to know Jesus as Lord and Savior.

Oh what a foolish girl I was!

I remember well, as a teenager, wanting so badly to be accepted by my peers, to be loved, to have the boyfriends, to be able to go out and away from the farm.  I wanted attention, to feel wanted.  Instead, I was isolated out on the farm miles from town, enveloped in romance novels that for a moment gave a different world of love, romance, acceptance to fall into.

What a foolish girl I was, once I left the farm and went out to the world on my own, seeking out what I'd read in those novels and what I thought I wanted.  Naive ideas led to decisions I can never reverse, all done in the search for love and attention.  This besetting sin followed me around and kept me in such bondage for a few years, a sickening cycle that held me in an ever continuing motion of seeking, acting, seeking again,   Satan had me in such a strong delusion, a hold that was so tight I could not get out...and I didn't even know it.

Then I came to know Jesus.  I got saved, and knew I was supposed to be in church, I wasn't supposed to give in to temptations, I was to stand strong.  But Satan fought harder.  He worked even harder to keep those hooks deep inside.  The Holy Spirit fought harder than Satan to turn me around.

He showed me how much He loved me and how much more He wanted for me.....and that there was no substitute.

I tell the above not to glorify my sin, but to show what foolish decisions can do, and how the Lord can turn foolish decisions to His glory.  It is my hope to see my stepdaughter grow up and not feel that she needs to seek love and attention from anyone but Jesus.  I hope that she will not want to follow the way her peers are going, even at such a tender age.  She doesn't know the heartache, the pain, the shame that comes with following what they do...but I do.

To God be the glory, great things He hath done!  He turned a foolish girl to a woman who can look beyond the sins of the past and point others to Him.

If you're one who has done foolish things, like I did, you don't have to let those sins keep you in bondage!  Jesus can set you free and break those chains that hold you to what you feel you must keep doing.  He loves you that much and wants only the best for you!  He can set you free, if you're willing to let Him use the key to unlock your shackles.

Leave that foolish girl behind and become the woman God wants you to be!

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The Legacy of Home Press: Our Books

If you read The Legacy of Home blog, written by Mrs. Sharon White, you'd be very interested in the books she's written!  Check out her site, The Legacy of Home Press!

The Legacy of Home Press: Our Books: We currently have five titles: 1. Early Morning Revival Challenge by Mrs. Sharon White Published August, 2013 72 pages, paperback..

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Sunday, September 29, 2013

It Is Well With My Soul

It is well, it is well with my soul...  This video tells the story behind the hymn, as well as performance.

  1. When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
    When sorrows like sea billows roll;
    Whatever my lot, Thou has taught me to say,
    It is well, it is well, with my soul.
    • Refrain:
      It is well, with my soul,
      It is well, it is well, with my soul.
  2. Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
    Let this blest assurance control,
    That Christ has regarded my helpless estate,
    And hath shed His own blood for my soul.
  3. My sin, oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!
    My sin, not in part but the whole,
    Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
    Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!
  4. For me, be it Christ, be it Christ hence to live:
    If Jordan above me shall roll,
    No pang shall be mine, for in death as in life
    Thou wilt whisper Thy peace to my soul.
  5. But, Lord, ’tis for Thee, for Thy coming we wait,
    The sky, not the grave, is our goal;
    Oh, trump of the angel! Oh, voice of the Lord!
    Blessed hope, blessed rest of my soul!
  6. And Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight,
    The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;
    The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,
    Even so, it is well with my soul.

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Saturday, September 28, 2013

10 Herbs for High Blood Pressure

Here is a quick post from Herbs, Health, and Happiness on 10 Herbs for High Blood Pressure!

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Friday, September 27, 2013

Thankful Homemaker: Living in the Mundane

I highly recommend visiting Marci at Thankful Homemaker today (or this week) and reading her gentle reminder to look past the day to day.  This was very uplifting to this homemaker, and I believe you will be blessed by it as well!

Thankful Homemaker: Living in the Mundane: "There simply are not many grand moments of life, and we surely don’t live life in those moments.  No, we live in the utterly mu...

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Thursday, September 26, 2013

I Will Praise Thee With My Whole Heart

Last night I was reading through Psalms, and Psalm 138 popped out and grabbed me.  Imagine my surprise when little hands reached out from the pages, shook me, and told me to pay attention! (grins)

The days as of late have been tough, with Mr. Kevin being away from home and our other two being a big more difficult to handle in his absense.  This Psalm is a good reminder of how God is there, listening to tears and prayers, and taking care of us all the way.

138 I will praise thee with my whole heart: before the gods will I sing praise unto thee.
I will worship toward thy holy temple, and praise thy name for thy lovingkindness and for thy truth: for thou hast magnified thy word above all thy name.
In the day when I cried thou answeredst me, and strengthenedst me with strength in my soul.
All the kings of the earth shall praise thee, O Lord, when they hear the words of thy mouth.
Yea, they shall sing in the ways of the Lord: for great is the glory of the Lord.
Though the Lord be high, yet hath he respect unto the lowly: but the proud he knoweth afar off.
Though I walk in the midst of trouble, thou wilt revive me: thou shalt stretch forth thine hand against the wrath of mine enemies, and thy right hand shall save me.
The Lord will perfect that which concerneth me: thy mercy, O Lord, endureth for ever: forsake not the works of thine own hands.

Isn't it wonderful how God is there no matter what, and we can praise Him no matter the circumstances??  Don't forget to show Him how much you love Him today, even in the midst of the most torrential rain or treacherous storm.  

*all verses are KJV and found at Bible Gateway

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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

New at Sunny Patch Cottage

In the past days I've started sewing baby items, and loving the pinks I've come across.

These items below are in a cute pink polka dot!

The above dress is a simple and sweet peasant dress with long sleeves.  It has an empire waist with a little rosette on ribbon accent.

The dress set below includes a short sleeve peasant dress that has tulle "fluff" attached to the waist to give lots of poof, for a princess look.  It has also a matching diaper cover accented in eyelet.

Both of these can be found at the Sunny Patch Cottage Etsy shop!

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Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Monday, September 23, 2013

Always Learning: A More Innocent Time

Here is a wonderful post from Lori at Always Learning!  I hope you enjoy it as much as I have!

Always Learning: A More Innocent Time: The Lost Valentine was on Hallmark last night.  It is a movie I highly recommend!  It is set in a time in our history when sexual immora...

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Saturday, September 21, 2013

Leaning and Learning

It's late Saturday night and all are in bed...but me of course.  It's been a good weekend so far, with my son home for a weekend visit from the residential facility.  He has done awesome, and he's showing real growth in areas he has needed help in.

He has also started a medication, along with counselling and therapy, for ADHD, along with the various other diagnosis he has.  The medicine started for this has made a marked difference.  So far, gone are the self harming behaviors.  No more hitting himself in the head.  No more punching himself.  His picking at bug bites has went significantly down.  His raging meltdowns have ceased, at least for now.  He was also taking pills without crushing them now, and doing more things independently.  He'd been gone 2 weeks.

I picked him up Friday after the school let out where he is, as he goes to an on campus school.  We had a quick therapy session with the staff psychologist, and I stood in shock as my son put together strings of words and put thoughts into words clearly, the first time I'd heard this.  I'd heard lots of stammering, lots of incomplete thoughts, fractured sentences, but not complete clear thoughts.

My child, who has been more or less locked inside himself mostly for 11 years, was able to express himself verbally.

Late Friday night, he decided he didn't want to go to sleep, and so we stayed up talking til nearly midnight.  We spoke of the length of time he had to stay at the facility, when he'd come home for another visit, what goals he was working on, and the friends he'd made so far at the facility.  I showed him his next meeting date on the calendar, and a general time frame for discharge, depending on how he progressed.  It didn't look so much like forever then,

Today was a testing time for the training my son has done, and he passed with flying colors.  When placed in situations that used to send him into meltdown mode, hurting me and others and sometimes involving police interventions, he didn't bat an eye or lift a finger, but rather let it all slide by as if it didn't bother him.  We went about a "normal" schedule, and many potential triggers didn't...trigger...

Tomorrow, Sunday, I must return him to the facility.  I don't want to.

It's not that they're doing anything wrong...they are doing well with him.

It's because he's my little boy, and I don't want to let go again.  I don't want to send my boy away again.

Tonight he begged me to let him sleep on the couch, and me in the recliner so he wouldn't have to sleep alone.  Where he stays at the residential facility, he is in his own room, and he has told me he doesn't like being alone.  So I will again sleep in the recliner, for my son.  I cried after he went to sleep, begging God for strength to let go again, because I don't have it on my own.  I can't in my own strength, I don't have it.  If I had my way, he'd stay home and not go back.  My boy would be home and go to school locally and be with his siblings and me and stepdad, be able to see his dad and stepmom, and live life at home again.

But I have to let my son go again.

I also prayed for strength for him to be able to face the long trip back to the facility.  Three hours one way is a long long drive when you don't want to go.  I also asked protection for his little heart, that he not be damaged as he finished up his stay at the facility.  God is working in us, He is making results happen in my son.  It's taking lots of changing and molding, hurting and letting go, facing what we once thought we'd never want to face.

We are leaning on Him...

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Friday, September 20, 2013

To God Be The Glory

I had the need for a hymn proclaiming the glory of God this morning!  Here it is:

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Thursday, September 19, 2013

10 Essentials for a Homemade Home

I ran across this post at More than Mundane (.com) and thought I'd share with you all!  I'm all for as much homemade and from scratch as one can do, and this is a great little guide for some ideas on working toward more homemade in your home as well!


My 10 Essentials For A Homemade Home

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Wednesday, September 18, 2013

The Sin In The Pages

I was listening to a well known Baptist pastor on a radio show this past week, and the topic of pornography jumped to the top.  Now, this was geared toward the men in the listening audience, but this got me thinking....

Can women be addicted to pornography too?

Answer:  yes!

Oh, we don't necessarily get a kick out of Hustler and Play Boy and those other magazines full of naked women.  But, have you taken a look at Chippendales?  How about those romance novels on the paperback racks at Walmart, Hastings, Barnes and Noble, or even Dollar General?  Have you by chance read what's in those novels?

Men are visual creatures, they run on sight, hence the photos of nudes.  Us women, we are more of the emotional, mindful type--we run on emotion and feelings rather than the photos.  Usually.

Many of us women at one point or another have picked up those handy dandy little novels, from Harlequin, Avon, and other names.  There's all kinds of story lines, from the backdrop of the Wild West, a ship steaming toward the Americas, a Southern plantation, you name it.  In most of these books, graphic sex scenes abound.  More often than not, a play by play of each movement, feeling, emotion, to make the woman reading the book feel like she's the heroine in the scene.

These are pornographic books, simply pointed toward us women rather than men.  They feed on the emotion, the dreams, the feelings, of women, rather than the eyes.

What can these books do for those women who read them?

They create a false dream, a false ideal of what a marriage, courtship, relationships, sex, womanhood should be like.  They glorify sex outside of marriage, they create lust for characters who do not exist (usually the overly muscular long haired man on the cover), create expectations for the men in their lives that these men cannot attain.  The stories give the woman another world that focuses on lust and sex.

What does our Lord say about lust?

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.  (Matthew 5:28)

Psalms 101:3 - I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; [it] shall not cleave to me.

Psalms 119:37 - Turn away mine eyes from beholding vanity; [and] quicken thou me in thy way.

Titus 2:12 - Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world;

There's a whole laundry list of verses on lust found here.

Is it a sin to read these romance novels that we see on the bookshelves where ever we go?  

I personally believe that yes, reading these can be sinful.

I am not judging anyone who reads them.  I used to read these myself, as a young teenager up through my early 20's.  The stories warped my ideas of what romance, love, and relationships were to be like.  I was not saved, so had no solid foundation, and I learned from reading.  Then experimenting.  Seeking.  Should I try to read one now, I'd feel soiled and filthy, ashamed in the sight of my Lord.  

The next time we are in a bookstore, we should pass by those dirty little books, full of sins, and pass on to something glorifying to our Lord!

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Monday, September 16, 2013

Confessions From Mom

I admit it--I burned supper.

I cried when I wrote the last note card to send out.

I bawled like a baby after talking with my son's new teacher at the residential facility.

I fussed with the kids this morning for refusing to get up and get ready for school and nearly missing the bus.

I'm not all put together as the way I present myself out and about.  I'm imperfect, as much as I want to do what is right, fix problems, save the day.  My supermom cape is full of holes.

Do you have days where you feel like you can't do it all, don't know how other moms do "everything" and keep sane?

Me too!

God didn't create us to do "everything".  He created us to do what He desires us to do.  It may not include making gourmet organic from scratch garnished with parsley meals.  Some days it may mean a stop at the local fast food place.  Some days it may mean running the dryer a few cycles extra when you don't get the clothes out and tended to.  Some days it is simply making yourself get out of bed and face the day and asking the Lord for a super highly full-caff dose of grace and strength to make it through the next half hour, then the next hour, then the afternoon, and so on.

A blog post I read at Not Alone sums it up well, probably much better than I could say.

"And I’m afraid. I’m in over my head. I feel spiritually paralyzed."

Have you ever felt that way?

I confess, since becoming a mom 11 1/2 years ago, I have. More times than I can count.  More than I want to count.

This is where we can trust in the Lord to guide us, carry us through, be our Comforter.

Let's remember today, this week, as we go about our days, drinking that umpteenth cup of coffee and trying to keep going, that God is in control, and He loves you!

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Hiding In Thee (Hymn)

O safe to the Rock that is higher than I,
My soul in its conflicts and sorrows would fly;
So sinful, so weary, Thine, Thine, would I be;
Thou blest “Rock of Ages,” I’m hiding in Thee.

Hiding in Thee, hiding in Thee,
Thou blest “Rock of Ages,”
I’m hiding in Thee.
In the calm of the noontide, in sorrow’s lone hour,
In times when temptation casts o’er me its power;
In the tempests of life, on its wide, heaving sea,
Thou blest “Rock of Ages,” I’m hiding in Thee.

How oft in the conflict, when pressed by the foe,
I have fled to my refuge and breathed out my woe;
How often, when trials like sea billows roll,
Have I hidden in Thee, O Thou Rock of my soul.


Broadman Hymnal
William Cushing and Ira Sankey

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Saturday, September 14, 2013

Fall Is In The Air

Granted the calendar doesn't say fall, the mornings are growing a wee cooler, the season is slowly changing.

What do you enjoy most about the coming fall season?

Photo taken from Rose Cottage on Facebook.... Isn't it lovely??

Friday, September 13, 2013

Standing Strong In The Refiner's Fire

It has been a week now since the fateful day arrived.

Last Thursday I had to let my son go, for a short time.  He left for a psychiatric residential treatment facility (PRTF) 3 1/2 hours from home.

I will be the first to say, this is not an easy decision to ever have to make.  No one wants to have their child anywhere but home, especially to go to a facility that is all strangers, far from home.  But alas, I had no choice, for either I did it voluntarily, or in a few months he goes via judge.  Thus is the life of a family with children on the autism spectrum in communities where there's little means of handling the aspects.

Mr. Kevin is doing well, he misses us, and we most definitely miss him.  We speak on the phone, I send cards to him every other day, and we can visit anytime we want to trek the distance.  He won't be there forever, but should be home again in the fall providing he handles the teaching well and is able to practice what he's learned in handling aggression.  It is not easy for him, nor for us, but the Lord has this happening for a reason.  It is best now at the young age, rather than wait until he's an adult and put into the adult detention centers where he'd never receive any help.

The Lord has been good to us, comforting as only He can do.  He has provided financial help, spiritual support, and lessons that have been needed along the way.  He's shown us that it's time to let Him do some work, to take our hands off and let Him accomplish something.

The situation has also kept us on our knees.  More figurative than literal (hey, arthritis isn't fun).  I've spent much much more time in prayer these passing days, praying for protection for Mr. Kevin, for him to learn what he needs to learn in order to return home, for the staff who work with him to have the wisdom they need, and for peace in his heart and mine.  Each day there are tears from me, whether it be triggered by a phone call from the new school, an insensitive comment from someone, stress in general, you name it.  Each tear is a prayer gone up to the Lord, He knows what is needed, and it is in His strength that we keep on going.

Back home, we continue to handle our oldest, with Asperger's, ADHD, and ODD.  The defiance and refusals and loud shrieks at times are almost more than one can handle.  The refusals to do school work, leading to detentions, the acting out in school that leads to disciplinary actions from the school according to his IEP and district guidelines, the lying about simple things, it wears at us.  This is where the Lord picks us up and keeps carrying us along, sometimes dragging us along when we just can't walk anymore.  Sometimes it is so hard to see the positives within them, when you're seeing the worst things they try to throw at you.  It is a real test at times to continue keeping on.

No wonder we're turning gray!

The Lord has answers to help unlock these children, He knows how to work with them effectively, and we wait with baited breath to get ahold of those answers.  Will we find them?  Maybe in time.  Until then, we continue to pray, to ask for help, to seek Him and keep trekking on.  Why?  Because He loves us, He loves our kids, and He cares.

God has used our children, their difficulties, their varying problems, to grow us, mold us, chisel at us, to make us into who He wants us to be.  It's not an easy process, and He knows we'll buck at the molding time.  But, He is faithful and patient, because He loves us so much.

Isn't a great and wonderful thing that God could love us so much?  He loves you too!  Whatever trials or hard times you're in or coming upon, know that He loves you very much, that He is right there to help you, to carry you if needed, to drag you along when you don't want to keep going on.  He's there!

Just talk to Him, and you'll find Him right beside you.

Thursday, September 12, 2013

How Firm A Foundation

This is a hymn that is a solace in trials.  Read each line, and take in the meaning as you go through your ups and downs in life.

How firm a foundation, ye saints of the Lord,
Is laid for your faith in His excellent Word!
What more can He say than to you He hath said,
You, who unto Jesus for refuge have fled?

In every condition, in sickness, in health;
In poverty’s vale, or abounding in wealth;
At home and abroad, on the land, on the sea,
As thy days may demand, shall thy strength ever be.

Fear not, I am with thee, O be not dismayed,
For I am thy God and will still give thee aid;
I’ll strengthen and help thee, and cause thee to stand
Upheld by My righteous, omnipotent hand.

When through the deep waters I call thee to go,
The rivers of woe shall not thee overflow;
For I will be with thee, thy troubles to bless,
And sanctify to thee thy deepest distress.

When through fiery trials thy pathways shall lie,
My grace, all sufficient, shall be thy supply;
The flame shall not hurt thee; I only design
Thy dross to consume, and thy gold to refine.

Even down to old age all My people shall prove
My sovereign, eternal, unchangeable love;
And when hoary hairs shall their temples adorn,
Like lambs they shall still in My bosom be borne.

The soul that on Jesus has leaned for repose,
I will not, I will not desert to its foes;
That soul, though all hell should endeavor to shake,
I’ll never, no never, no never forsake.

Taken from the Broadman Hymnal
Attributed to John Keene, Kirk­ham, and John Keith, 1787

Friday, September 6, 2013

Trusting Him

Psalm 37:23-26

(23) The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord:  and he delighteth in his way.
(24)  Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down:  for the Lord upholdeth him with his hand.
(25)  I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.
(26)  He is ever merciful, and lendeth, and his seed is blessed.

The past weeks have been hard.  So often I have felt a failure, a disappointment, complete brokenheartedness.  I've wondered many times what I've missed, what I could have done differently, what else could I have tried to help my son.

Many nights, quite a few days, I've cried desperate tears of complete pain, hurt, despair for my son.  The Lord hears my cries, my pleas for help for him.  He knows my pain, and He holds me in His arms as the storms continually pound away and darkness seems to last forever.

Often times lately I've prayed for answers, guidance, strength, courage, peace in decisions I have no choice in making.  I've begged the Lord to protect my son's heart, help him learn what he needs to function, learn how to express things without using physical aggression, help him understand cause and effect and how serious consequences can be at his age.

The days ahead, the weeks to come are expected to be the toughest I've handled in many years.  I must let my 11 year old son go to a long term psychiatric facility against my wishes, due to aggression and behaviors that have hurt others.  I have no choice, I must do it voluntarily or a judge will do it for me.  After his stay is completed I must take him to face his charges brought about from one of his last instances of aggression.  He does not understand any of it, the reason for the hospitalization, nor the charges he must face upon return.  His autism and mental retardation do not allow him yet to grasp those.

I do grasp the situation, and I've had to cling fully to the Lord.  There's no other option.  I've questioned, cried hot tears asking Him why He is allowing this to happen, why He would let these things happen to a child who can't understand.  I've begged and pleaded with Him to stop the happenings.

Each time He responds with a quiet refusal.

Each time He responds, "My grace is sufficient.  Trust me."

I'll admit, that's not the answer I want.  I don't want to wait.  I don't want to hurt.  I don't want my child hurting.  It's this time I see my own selfishness, my own short comings.

So as the days pass, I will continue to trust.